Would You Program Your Brain for High Self-Esteem?

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  • 1. Would You Program Your Brain for High Self-Esteem? Are you struggling with low self-esteem, emotional abuse, passive aggression, or general sickness in your relationships? Please visit here to receive a free consultation: http://conflictcoach.me/services/If you are having trouble with your low self-esteem, the first place you should start is yourbrain. You need to train it to accept praise from others, and to praise itself as well.Is it possible to condition and program our brains the same way we would on a computer? Theanswer is yes! (And don’t worry, you don’t need high-tech skills to do it!) We are conditioningour brains every day, without realizing it. We do this when we use phrases and expressions totalk about ourselves. The little chatter in your head that says, “This I can do, this I can’t, this I’mgood enough for, this I’m not,” etc. can make or break your self-esteem.Why does this little voice have so much power? Because, if we analyze it, these opinions aboutourselves don’t come from us. they come from years ago, when the first chatter was children,parents, and others evaluating us according to their standards. Gradually, their voices becamethe one we use to talk to ourselves! Think of it as living in a certain area for so long that youbegin to pick up the same accent as the locals.So, do you have a problem with speaking in public, because you are extremely self-consciousabout your voice? Well, chances are that somewhere in your past, someone teased and judgedyou about your voice, and now that opinion has been taken up by your brain as true.
  • 2. This is how smart your brain is: it can take up the smallest instances and fool you (and itself)into making them valid. However, if it’s smart enough to do this in the first place, it’s smartenough to reverse it as well, right? To be more confident about yourself, you need to becomeself-directed and watch carefully the things you say to yourself (i.e., the inner voice your brain issupplying you with). Are there lots of critical statements? Dismissing comments? Ironicappraisals and accusations about your own capacity?Once you become aware of this internal negative chatter and where it can be coming from (anunreliable source), you can see how these comments can chip away at your self-esteem. Yourcommunication processes (internal images, thoughts, feelings) need to screened andmoderated, so that they can be transformed into a self-building stream of positive reinforcement.Usually, we dismiss the power of this kind of self-programming. We think that we can’t teach ourbrain to think in new ways and break out of old routes of logic. If you have been raised as aperson not confident about yourself at all, you will be attuned to those negative comments andvalidating them as real truths.But you know what? Those “truths” are constructed anyway, so what is preventing you fromfeeding yourself (constructing) new positive comments?I know a person who always says things to herself like “Hey, Queen Brilliant,” and “Hey, smartypants,” and in those moments, she can feel how she becomes extremely happy! We all need tocreate that powerful state of esteem for ourselves so that excitement and significance arereinforced. That way, we don’t go back into old programmings, those feelings that we are notgood at anything that someone, sometime ago, installed in our brains.We need to program our brains the same way we would a personal computer. We should installthe feelings we want, the images of ourselves we want, and the strategies to create the stateswe want to exist in. Similarly, we need to scour our systems (physical, mental, and emotional)for things that don’t belong and are only slowing us down! If we don’t, everything will be randomand eccentric; we’ll never have the ability to access good feelings on cue, and they’ll never stickaround.I have had some wonderful results as I teach these new “programming” or conditioningtechniques to my clients and readers. It’s not an instant process, because you actually have toreinforce the nerve cells in your brain while you reinforce your good behavior. However, just byteaching them that low self-esteem is never permanent, they are gaining better self-esteemand self-awareness , and feel like completely new people because of it! It’s a great thing to see!If you have low self-esteem and are struggling to find solutions, please contact Coach Noratoday for a coaching session, where you’ll learn more about re-programming the negativemessages that are keeping you miserable!Nora Femenia, PhD, is passionate about offering useful strategies for healing a difficult, angryrelationship with love and compassion. You don’t have to stay in an unhealthy relationship one
  • 3. more minute, let her share her tools with you today! You can begin by having a complimentaryconsultation (by clicking here), with a plan for action to change your life with new skills included.Just click this link and get started now, or visit her blog!
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